Interview Sex and Love From LebJournals

This is an interview with a Lebanese citizen living abroad. The interview was conducted on the subject of SEX&LOVE, and I tried to find out from him if they are related. Enjoy!

- OMEROS says:

what’s the relation between sex and love?

- “kamal” says

the answer should be divided in two parts: the psychological aspect, and the natural aspect;

Love; in general, is kind of affection experienced by one person towards another, it holds affection and passion within its context. There couldn’t be an exact way to explain how love could be expressed or sensed. i think, words in general, cant serve quite well in this aspect. But, just briefly in a mere trial, I’d say love is the application we perform to handle the beloved one

Within the limits of our capabilities to show our passion and affection towards that person and to secure the same feeling back.

- OMEROS says:

And passion? How would you define passion?

- “kamal” says:

Ya habibe.. hek ma mnikhlas .. LOL .. Of course here two another “worlds” actually rise up. Passion and Affection. Two mutually related terms. The former would suggest desire of coexistence, and the latter would suggest the reason for it, i.e. the feeling itself.

So, love has different forms. That would depend on the range of the relative passion and the type of the same relative affection.

Examples: love between, mother and son, man and woman, man and animal, etc…

As to the love between a man and a woman forms the most interesting branch. That’s simply because it’s the branch where the love couldn’t be easily expressed, and thus, acknowledged. (in most cases). In my opinion, strong self-confidence, and courage (in other words lack of fear) are the solution: just express the feeling clearly!

- OMEROS says:

So how people mix sex & love?

- “kamal” says:

Scientifically, sex is an instinct. Thus, it has nothing to do with other extra humane characteristics, such as love!

- “kamal” says:

However, due to the social nature of humans as a species, they reached some sort of social bonding on the basis of some pre-defined restrictions. That eventually evolved into civilization.

- OMEROS says:

Here I may introduce another idea , how come that in all social issues we see the word “God” related to this subject specially this triad ( love sex and god)

- “kamal” says:

Bikhsous” allah” its one negative sid effects of civilizations. You know, humans made this thing up. it was a requirement to control the different societies, the thing which turned into the so called religion, and then just went of control!……. that’s my take on this

- OMEROS says

Take a brief look , in the western culture countries , where “religion” do not make a rule the society, we don’t have that link between” god sex and love “, even more they have a certain freedom in their choices and beliefs but here we are faced by a wall called “religion ” , don’t you think so ?:

- “kamal” says:

If you meant here, that the open sex is one of the symptoms of losing that religious control, of course you’re right. Bass hal shi bi ra2yik right or wrong?

- OMEROS says:

I don’t see it like this , I don’t called this :open sex: aslan what is the concept of “open sex” , I find that sex is a way of expression like dancing like writing, I don’t know this is how I see it maybe I’m mistaken so what do you think?

- “kamal” says:

eh 2akid… But sex as a concept is different , Because sex is instinct. ya3ni desire not emotion: it cant be controlled:

if any human were deprived form his basic desire of sex, this would reflect as a major effect on him. he would not be a complete human being anymore. This deficiency would cause a permanent negative effect on his behavior and his psychological stability, different results bass same effects.

.. for instance, why do you think most of the individuals try their best to “play around” and have sex as much as they could, to get into a serious relationship or maybe marriage afterwards? As if a preparatory stage!

La2an if two people will stay together for the rest of their life and they didn’t experimented before taking such decision they will make they will tend to do with someone else or even they could put an end to their relationship.

their in the contrary if they did made love before marriage the whole story will be under control yet ma bitzoul.. 2akid

That’s why our society do not evaluate.. One of the major problems is sex and the complex of sex , our girl “makboutin ” and Lebanese men are somehow .

- OMEROS says:

that’s why some man are scared from marriage and love , they fear the engagement and the phobia of having a same bed partner for the rest of their life?

- “kamal” says:

kif ya3ni?

- OMEROS says:

Ya3ne ….. Lebanese men consider marriage like “punishment”, probably, because a big part of girls do not have experience in bed “sexual wise” and it could be the same reason why our men marry a non Lebanese girl

- “kamal” says:

hehe.. rou2ya mni7a hay.. hmmmm , bi libnen 3inna a failing society 3a kil l ma2ayis mish bass bi hal shahgli the society is failing we sooner or later wil break down

- OMEROS says:

And how will be that break down ?

- “kamal” says:

Well I don’t know it could be another war

- OMEROS says:

tayeb hayda mne7ke fi gher mara . . . . . next time .

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